Perfection is a state of being excellent and perfect. Perfection leaves no space for mistakes or errors. A perfect thing is managed well characterized and well monetized in all dimensions. A perfect person is one who wants perfection I himself as well as in surrounding.
If you are anything like an ordinary human being. This word you might associate with positive qualities. A continuous struggle for excellence makes your robot. People always have room for a mistake no matter how much he is extraordinary
But more and more researcher is finding that perfectionism isn’t positive. Instead, it does not make you successful. And it does not make you happy. To be a healthy and successful human being, you have to learn from your mistake and to learn from your mistake.
How Behavior disorders are associated with perfection?
You have to be ok for making them first. If you are a perfectionist you might avoid that at all costs. That can mean that you do not shoot high enough to risk failure.
It can also mean that you do not learn in the long term. Then there is the mental health aspect. If you rank high on a list of perfectionist tendencies, here are the things that you are at a higher risk for, too depression, anxiety self-harm, early mortality, suicide, and the list goes on.
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Difference between perfection and conscientiousness:
There is a difference between being excellent and being disciplined. A thin line creates a difference. Discipline will never drag you in anxiety while perfectionism always drags you in depression. A consistent competition with people or himself will damage his mental health
The latter is being hard work or being disciplined, which can look like perfectionism from the outside.
But when it becomes perfectionism and gets toxic is when it comes with that critical inner voice.
Think of a student who works hard preparing for an exam, striving to get good marks, and fail. What does she tell herself? If her inner voice says I’m disappointed, but it’s ok, I’m still a good person overall, that’s healthy. But if he says I could have done better and I am not able to perform the job, this inner voice is a call of perfection
How the gut instinct of perfection harm your success?
That inner voice is not just unhealthy. It even undermines your chance of success. Because perfectionists are so stressed out by failure, they tend to overreact to obstacles and they experience more guilt, shame, and anger when they do make a mistake.
They also give up more easily than non-perfectionists. None of which, obviously is the key to success or a fulfilled, happy life.
So how can you fight perfectionist tendencies?
Experts say it in childhood. Avoid making children feel guilt for the mistake. Watch how you praise them too. If children are praised only when they do something well, they are only really worth something when they have won the approval of others.
It is important to show children that you love them unconditionally no matter how they perform.
For the rest of us, the most important thing is to let go of the idea that beating ourselves up for mistakes somehow makes us better and to replace that self-criticism with self-compassion.
When you make a mistake, acknowledge you’re disappointed. But then try to speak to yourself in the way you would speak to a friend that you care about. Perhaps we have to also start saying: treat yourself as you try to treat others. Self-care is important but holding yourself hard for not making mistake is a psychological disorder.