What is SRD
Sibling Rivalry disorder (SRD) is a type of competition or jealousy or a sense of insecurity among siblings. Sibling Rivalry disorder is not associated with blood bonds. It is a mental state of competing to get better than another sibling or kids around. Sibling rivalry disorder starts with the birth of a second child. It is common among the siblings who have fewer age differences or are of the same gender. Fortunately, it is treatable and parents can do a lot to treat their children. If parents work in a positive way to resolve conflicts, probably none of the children would suffer Sibling rivalry disorder.
Parents have to deal SRD kids with patience and care. They later may develop a sense to respect each other opinions and may start sharing daily life stuff. At least parent’s focus can end the sense of competition. Parents can develop a sense of cooperation in SRD kids. A person is no more an insecure person if you are giving a good amount of effort in the right way.
Symptoms of Sibling Rivalry Disorder
- Intolerance for siblings or surrounded kids
- Aggression and Frustration
- Competition to win
- Insecurity and jealousy
- Lack of respect for someone opinion
- Often Hunger
- No fun activities and being bored
- Social Isolation
What Causes Sibling Rivalry Disorder?
- A kid’s relationship with their parents is threatened by the arrival of a new baby.
- A child tries to define himself by creating a clear sense of differentiation by competing. He explores his own talents and activities and this journey leads to a superiority complex or short-term insecurity.
- Children feel they do not get enough affection or time.
- SRD kids will grow up as SRD adults. And it would affect their life all along. SRD adults in extreme conditions do not avoid to hurt someone’s feeling.
- Children who are hungry or bred are more vulnerable to SRD. They get frustrated and start fights.
- Children who do not know how to express feelings are more likely to develop SRD. They start fighting and show intolerance for another child.
- Parents who keep comparing their children with relative’s children also put kids in SRD. It depends on how parents treat their children.
- Children are likely to become SRD patients when parents think fighting and conflicting among siblings is a normal thing and they do not focus on the upcoming mental state.
- Stress in parents life decrease the amount of attention and that could b the reason for SRD.
- Children with a sensitive mindset are unlikely to hold stress and the stress later develops in SRD.
- Parent’s contribution and part to resolve conflict make big difference about how much siblings would get along.
How To Treat Sibling Rivalry Disorder, SRD, Kids?
- Never play “favorite kid”
- Do not compare siblings. Never admire one and insult others at the same time.
- Let flourish child originality and do not repaint under the garb what you want to be them.
- Enjoy the success and talent of children individually. Do not demotivate or take for granted any talent your children show you.
- Set children to cooperate instead of competing. Cooperation in adult life is a base of teamwork while the competition creates restlessness and stress.
- Pay attention to time and pattern when the conflicts occur. Pay attention close if they fight when they hungry.
- Teach your children a positive way to get attention. Teach them how to approach other children and ask for playing.
- Always treat kids equally if they are showing symptoms of insecurity. Analyze behavior if a kid is jealous when someone else is being admired.
- Treat Sensitive children carefully. Your lack of attention can create a fuss and exhaustion.
- Being fair is a good thing but it is not similar to being equal. Kids may receive different privileges according to age. Adults have more responsibilities while the younger ones enjoy freedom. Get them equal things irrespective if they need it or not. Similarly, offer an equal amount of attention and care.
- Plan family activities which are real fun. Have a picnic and enjoy vacation once or twice a year. Try to create a stable and strong bond between siblings.
- If a baby about to come in life then prepare other children mentally. Slow counseling or idea would create easiness in the acceptance of new baby.
- Every mental illness is treatable. Merely you have to put the right amount of time.
Bottom Lines over SRD
Every person is distinct and hence their mental health as well. You cannot expect all children to live in the same place, to be the same.
Every kid has a different personality and mental approach as well. Being a parent is a big responsibility. Your lack of attention can make them mentally unstable.
If your child is showing intolerance for other kids, or jealousy when they succeed then maybe it is the right time you should notice its activities. SRD is common when parents are in stress and they do not have the proper time to spend with their children. SRD kids are likely to develop as toxic people later. A developing age has strong routes in later life.
If you are providing an unhealthy and toxic environment to your children then later in life they are going to be depressive or toxic. Surroundings are the first school. Nothing affects children more than the domestic environment.
Mental health is a serious issue we need to talk not in adults only but children as well. A child may have a mental illness just like a grown-up man. The difference is he cannot speak like a grown up man and you have to understand by yourself. Always have an eagle eye while you are observing your kids’ attitudes and approaches in daily life.